Hi! I’m Vanessa. I have a husband named Dan and three kids–Charlotte, Emmy, and Theo.
Things I love:
- my friends and family (naturally)
- writing
- photography
- iced tea
- the ocean
- talking to other people about shared experiences
I started Williams Syndrome Smile with these intentions in mind:
- to encourage compassion for others–especially for those who have special needs
- to share my story with kindred spirits
- to develop a creative outlet for everything that has been swimming around in my head
Feel free to send me an email at: williamssyndromesmile@gmail.com. I promise to respond. When I was a newly-diagnosed parent, I was very confused about my daughter’s diagnosis, and I felt completely alone and afraid. I immediately thought of the website of a very popular blogger who also has a child with special needs, and I reached out to her right away. I spilled out all of my feelings, desperate for someone to just say, “I understand.” But I never heard back, and it took me a while to figure out where else to turn. I’m positive that she gets a trillion emails a day, so I can’t hold it against her. But I don’t want to ignore any email that comes my way because I know how alienating this experience can be–at first. So if you want to reach out, please do, and I will respond!
Vanessa, this is a wonderful blog and you write very movingly and with great sensitivity. It never occured to me that you were having any special journeys in your life. I am happy you are writing (wouldn’t have know if not for your sister-in-law, so I thank her!). You are and will be uplifting to many, many people. Love to all your beautiful family. Claire
Thank you so much! 🙂 I’m happy to be writing too.
Vanessa
i found your story about being a perfectionist on the Tiny Buddha webpage and it spoke to me. I am sitting on my couch as I type this, completely overwhelmed by my messy house, piles of laundry, empty refrigerator and wasted long weekend. I can SO relate to everything you said about perfectionism. It has been the story of my life as well. I am afraid to try because I know I won’t be the best. I eat more because I can’t bear to try and lose weight and be unsuccessful. I don’t try to look “good” – because someone will always look better. It is such a curse, and I am exhausted from it. Thank you for writing your story – sometimes I feel so alone in this “craziness.” Your article and your blog about your life with your beautiful family make me think that there may be hope. I just want to say God bless you and your family and thank you for sharing something so personal – it is truly a gift you are giving to others with similar struggles. 🙂
Tina,
Thank you so much for reaching out! It’s good to know I’m not alone. 🙂
Vanessa
From one perfectionist to another, I hear you and so relate. Thank you for expressing what I’ve been thinking to myself for over 50 years. God bless!
Regarding your article on Tiny Buddha: thank you for writing what I’ve been thinking for over 50 years–I now understand why I’m such a procrastinator. Thank you for sharing this–God bless.
I’m a procrastinator too, and it took me a while to put 2+2 together (perfectionism + procrastination). Thank you for visiting my blog and sharing your thoughts! -Vanessa
I think I may have found a kindred spirit 🙂 Thanks Vanessa,
Jo
Absolutely. Too bad we live a gazillion miles away! 🙂
Vanessa,
You don’t know me, but I just wanted to let you know I think you are a beautiful writer. I stumbled upon a piece you wrote about perfectionism and paralysis for Tiny Buddha. I am really good at walking the dog too (smile). Your thoughts made a positive impact in a total stranger’s life and I thought you should know.
Oh, and apparently you are also a very good Mother. God bless you and your beautiful family.
Sincerely,
Phylann
Hi Phylann,
Thank you so much for visiting my blog and for your kind words! I’m so glad you liked the Tiny Buddha article. It means a lot that you stopped by to share your thoughts. 🙂 Thank you!
Vanessa
Has been some time since you last posted: Are you (all) all right?
Hi there, Thanks so much for your concern! I really appreciate it. 🙂 All is well. Just busy, busy, busy with the kids right now. I have a lot of blog ideas and will hopefully get a chance to post soon. Thanks for reading!! 🙂 -Vanessa